The Culture of Co-Opting Pain

One thing I have noticed in the last 7 years is that I find more and more people who have amazing lives who feel bad and guilty about them. People who were never abused, oppressed or struggled feeling like something is WRONG with them or like they need to carry some guilt for their happiness. People who maybe have gone through challenging things who aren’t carrying deep wounds but feel like they SHOULD.

I’ve observed people attempting to do what I call the Culture of Co-Opting Pain. Where you begin to take on others identity, orientation, and perspective as a form of Empathy. It is the Shadow of empathy.

I am not for any attempt to make people feel bad, shame or like they should shrink because they are Happy, Healthy, Loved, Wealthy, Liked, and full of what they Desire.

I see more and more this pressure for people to:

*confuse authenticity with having deep insecurities or issues.
* confuse being healthy with being able-est
* confuse loving one’s body with body shaming others
* confuse enjoying one’s life- with a lack of compassion for other lives
* confuse loving one’s own gender, and sexuality – with oppressing that which is NOT one’s own orientation

In other words, the only way to prove that you accept and care for others is to identify as they identify – which is not TRUE – and is actually just another form of monoculture and rejection of the diversity that we are here to experience.

Perhaps this has been forgotten:

“You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.” ~Marianne Williamson

In other words- be YOU – be Happy… and feel free to be EXCELLENT!!

Learn more, get SOFT –

In Love,


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