Calling Home vs. Calling Out

Excerpt from my keynote…I’m sharing this part because I believe “Calling Home” is the healing balm that is most needed…

“Calling out is easy. It’s quick. As quick and easy as pressing a little red button to launch a nuclear missile. And just as potentially destructive.

Over the years I’ve seen so many people “called out” – with greater and greater velocity for lesser and lesser “Crimes”.

Calling out leaves a trail of wounded behind it. And you know what happens to hurt people right? They hurt people… again.

The newest iteration is calling in. Calling in its more connective. We spoke about it a bit yesterday at the Women’s caucus…

Yet I want to go even further…Instead of calling out, and in addition to calling in… I want to suggest something I’ve called, Calling Home.

A story is told of the Bamebia people:

In the Bamebia tribe of South Africa, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he is placed in the centre of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual.

Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the centre of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. All his positive attributes, good deeds, strengths, and kindnesses are recited carefully and at length. This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days.

Now- some say it’s a work of fiction, some say it’s a first hand account… I say it doesn’t matter. Treat it as a parable if you wish. A Fable. What really matters is the huge gleaming nugget of gold at the center.

And that is this… by casting out and cursing out those who are a part of our tribe who make mistakes… we are diminished as a Tribe.

The Calling Home then is not just to remind the person who has done an alleged “misdeed” of who they are – It is to remind US of how our own lives have been made better, enriched and expanded because of that person.

It is to remind us that they are Valuable. That no one is disposable. It is the powerful thing- when I call another home… I also am able to come home myself.

And that is the greatest Celebration of Diversity of All.

Thank you.

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