Good morning loves!!!
Ladies,
What we think is based on what we’re taught my loves. Many of us mistakenly believe we’re independent thinkers and have come up with our worldview ourselves, when in reality that world view was imparted to us, nourished and fed by others and we’ve internalized it as our identity.
When a worldview is internalized as identity everything in you will seek to protect it and the opportunity for true growth and expansion is marginalized and limited until you are willing to question it.
It is a very angst filled and often painful process beloved. Your self-concept must literally be undone so you can truly grok the I Am-ness.
The issue is that often many things taught in the “empowerment” movement will serve to hold you in the former paradigm by encouraging non-change for you, and judgment of others. In this way, the limiting belief held by the self can remain entrenched because a fundamental shift in it isn’t required.
Here is a game to play where you can observe this phenomenon yourself.
Consider something uncomfortable that has occurred most recently. Something that created a less than desirable emotional response (such as anger, disappointment, offense, sadness) in you in regard to another person, especially a man you’re in partnership with or a man in your life. It also works well for any relationship.
It helps to write this down…
What happened?
What was said?
What was your action and reaction?
What was their action and reaction?
Now here’s the interesting part…
Their action and reaction caused you to feel what?
MEANS what?
In other words, what is it indicative of?
Why?
How do you know that?
Who taught you that or where did you learn it?
What if that conclusion is absolutely INCORRECT?
Notice how you FEEL internally about the idea that your conclusion in regard to this could be… Wrong.
The resistance? That’s the belief attempting to protect itself.
The stronger the resistance the more entrenched the belief.
Consider this darling, That is simply ONE experience, but many of us do this literally thousands of times a day, and we wonder why we are unhappy, why the world seems bleak.
This is not about not feeling the emotions… It’s about what the emotions actually mean versus what we assume they mean.
Eye opening!!
If you’re ready to go deeper I invite you to SOFT bit.ly/GetSOFT
Love,
Namaste
